A Solitary Life

I’m Nobody! Who are you?
Are you – Nobody – too?
Then there’s a pair of us!
Don’t tell! they’d advertise – you know!

How dreary – to be – Somebody!
How public – like a Frog
To tell one’s name – the livelong June
To an admiring Bog!

Emily Dickinson

By reading this article, you will experience a wave of positivity. This article is a fountain of inspiration and will uplift your spirits. Bask in its sunbeam of happiness

Many people look down on single people.

Especially, but not exclusively single women.


People can’t mind their business.

People suck.

Well, not all of them, but far too many.

It is the #1 reason to be alone.

There are other benefits to being alone.

Life is significantly cheaper.

Life is quieter.

Life is less stressful.

Life has far more options.

Life is freer.

Life is shorter.


I am skeptical that it is true that life is shorter when single.

Life is risky.

Life is messy.

Life is infinitely complicated.

There are just too many variables at play that researchers cannot account for.

It makes it impossible to draw definitive conclusions.

The article claims that men who marry intelligent wives live longer.


What about a woman marrying an intelligent man?

What if they are both intelligent?

Being around an intelligent spouse has many benefits.

That shouldn’t be too controversial.

It should also hold for an intelligent single person.

It is easier to see by looking at the opposite situation.

Poor couples, or a single person, tend to be uneducated, but not necessarily unintelligent.

Okay, but they also tend to be stressed.

They don’t tend to eat healthy, being uneducated or unintelligent is just one of many factors here.

Life is complicated.

Even if they want to, few have the time to exercise.

Vacations are rare to non-existent.

In the US, to our absolute shame, doctor visits are nearly impossible for the poor.

Poor people often must wait until a serious problem occurs, so they can go to the ER.

Preventative medicine is reserved for the fully insured.

The US is a cruel and disgusting place.

Education and finances are probably more predictive of life span than mere marriage.

Perhaps in most of Europe, Japan, Australia, etc., it is different.

Even then, there are thousands of other variables that effect lifespan.

There is freedom in being able to do what one wants to do when one wants to do it.

Marriage makes being free difficult.

Feeling trapped adds stress.

Personal conflicts add stress.

Stress kills.

It is odd to me that two people who love each other have conflicts at all.

Humanity kinda sucks, huh?

Why is it so important to many that people don’t stay single and alone?

A solitary person can be content.

They can be happy.

A married person can be miserable.

Is living a long time even desirable?

That is debatable.

As I have pointed out on this site too many times to link to, I will live the rest of my life alone.

No matter what I do or how I improve myself, it remains true.

So, I can accept it or fight it.

What will fighting against loneliness bring?

More stress.

More embarrassment.

More pain.

More depression - if that is possible.

A shorter life.

Hey, that is a benefit.

Accepting all of that brings peace.

Less depression.

Less stress.

Less embarrassment.

A longer life.


This is not a call for people to stay single.

Quite the opposite.

It is a plea to find peace and happiness in whatever your goals are.

Whether one is married or not.

Whether a relationship is possible or not.

If your current path isn’t bringing you peace and happiness. Change paths.


For me, I am on a path to find acceptance.

Regardless of what anyone else thinks.

They don’t have to pay the consequences for fighting against being alone.

I do.

If, on my path, I find someone who wants to join me, that will be great.

If not, that is great also.

The sooner the path ends, the better.

But, if it continues on and on, I am working on being content and having a peaceful life.

That is not a bad thing.

Is it?

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